I'm Going to be a Dad !

[Wyld]

Life as you know it is changing, nothing is over.

Nah....it's over!

getting married is where it half ends.. just when you think you're going to escape... you get babies and then you're screwed forever

Hey, MuscularTeeth .. this is what I mean about opinion and reality.

To a huge degree, we pick our futures. Pick the best one you can, and stick with it.

Make it real. Keep it real.

PS: This is also just my opinion

[CelticAngel82]

[quote="Artful-dodgeR"Everything I've read thus far is mainly geared toward the woman, dad's seem to be ignored alot of the time :-/[/quote]

some of mine was aimed at the dads if not both..
grats to you too btw..

[cyclobs]

getting married is where it half ends.. just when you think you're going to escape... you get babies and then you're screwed forever

Hey, MuscularTeeth .. this is what I mean about opinion and reality.

To a huge degree, we pick our futures. Pick the best one you can, and stick with it.

Make it real. Keep it real.

PS: This is also just my opinion

FOREVER!!!!

[Canetoads]

Congrats to the expecting couple.

There's three simple rules that have worked with me, over the years.

1.) Go with that gut feeling you may get from time to time. More often than not it turns out to be the right decision.
2.) Always go with the Mother's instinct, for some reason unknown to me. There is definately a bond there with most Mum's and Bub's that cannot be ignored.
3.) Ignore most of the medical advice that elder relatives may give you. Simply because of the advancements in modern medicine have come a long way since those relatives were in your shoes.

Oh, last but not least. Savour every moment you can have with your children. Because before you know it, they will have grown up and meeting you at eye level.

[mini15michael]

Congrats all that are expecting...

I just had my first son on Sunday, so very newly home... But I have been a step father since my 3 year old was 6 months old... so I have done most things, just not the birth or early part.

Advice from me is fairly similar to Wyld's...

1. Do everything you can to help out, it makes things easier on everyone.
2. Sleep will be deprived, but it is well worth it, seeing the smiles, bruises, cuts, injuries, laughs, and just random things of kids is great.
3. Let them play and do everything they can. Let them fall over, and eat random things, but always keep them healthy. No matter what dog poo is not healthy!
4. Enjoy every moment!
5. Allow time for yourself and let your partner have some time to themselves. Sometimes all you need is an hour of solitude


But mostly, just go with the flow, and parent your style, don't let people tell you how to do things when you think its wrong. Advice is one thing, but telling you how to do things is another.

Edit:
And just be thankful that you aren't like me with 2 kids with the same birthday 3 years apart. Which means an 18th and 21st on the same night to come.

[ViN]

Congrats mate,

My wife and i are expecting our third child in under 3 years in a couple of months and there has been alot to learn and even more to enjoy...

So a couple of things I would share -

1 - Support an love your Mrs like u have never before. She is going to be working hard for the next few years.
2 - Don't over analyse every detail,just go with the flow. Trust me by the end of the second tri mester your Mrs is going to be over it a jsut want the baby out.

When the baby comes -

1 - Support an love your Mrs like u have never before. She is going to be working hard for the next few years.
2 - Get the MRS to join a mothers group... There a some things which you wont be able to support her with + she is going to need some social interaction.
3- Routine Make sure you get one in place.
4 - Relax
5 - Spend as much ime as you can with your new family and enjoy the most amazing experience you will have in life.

Oh.... and when your kid(s) get a little older, be ready to be forever cleaning up

*EDIT*

People wil tell you you cant get pregnant while she is breast feeding... Well im here to tell you YOU CAN think about it before you get back in the saddle

[Tater]

Serious people why with the Life over comments ?

If anything he's life has began having your own child is a wonderful experience just seeing your child grow up and learn new things everyday is incomparable to anything.


My son has not long turned 4 he's now riding his bike going crazy at the skate park on his scooter, can now have a meaningful conversation with him. (apart from the how, why asked over and over again)


Also during the pregnancy things can and will get quite crazy, sudden crying outbursts, mood swing from the misses, just gotta cop it and take it on the chin and support her during every step of the way.

Everything I've read thus far is mainly geared toward the woman, dad's seem to be ignored alot of the time :-/

Yes it's all about the woman she's the one that has to do all the hard work, but that being said the male role is just as important the man needs to be there to love and support without that she would be a nervous wreck.

[BorisBC]

+1 Thanks Wyld, much appreciated for you to take the time to write these things up. Everything I've read thus far is mainly geared toward the woman, dad's seem to be ignored alot of the time :-/

I think you mean outside of this thread yeah? Dads don't have a whole lot of support, but that's changing - we aren't like the old days of dads not getting stuck in. I was there cutting the cords for the births of all 4 of mine, and yeah Wyld has it right. That first moment you hold your child in your hands will change your life forever.

[MuscularTeeth]

Thanks again, particularly wyld.
i should point out im 31, and this was a very conscious decision to have a child, so all the "run away" and "your life is over" comments wash over me. Im no longer the party animal i was, and i dont mind that at all.
Yup it will be hard work, with few if any hours sleep. But the rewards im sure will far exceed any hurdles.
Here's hoping that everyone who is expecting has a healthy child.

[Jeatalong]

For me nothing I have ever experienced has come close as to seeing my twins gets born. The amount of effort that it all requires, makes you realise how strong a woman really has to be compared to a guy.

[Gotrek1966]

Congrats matey

After also having four *groans loudly*kids, besides Wylds comment is that what has been said is true. Get hand me downs (does indeed save you a wad of money), dont get a cheap arse stroller though.

The wife will indeed go through fazes especialy if she has problems breastfeeding, expect sleepless nights if he/she is a restless one. LISTEN to advice from friends/family but always think what they say through as most of it will be **** anyway from them (theirs are always the most precious even if everyone knows they are little turds).

Books are good, but actual advice from a mother is the best.

Be prepared to be paranoid as soon as you think something is wrong with them (even if it isnt). After the third we just went "Mhe, shes fine".

DO NOT let inlaws/or your parents interfere in the relationship between you, your wife and how you raise the child....That I cannot stress enough, been one of the many issues in my life and in the lives of friends I have known.

Thats all I can think of at the moment, happy to help if I can.

[Wyld]

Make sure the first to people to hold the baby is mum and dad.

Everyone. Else Waits.

EVERYONE.

[Freeride]

Make sure the first to people to hold the baby is mum and dad.

Everyone. Else Waits.

EVERYONE.

Im going to find out where its being born and intercept the hold as the doctor is passing it over then follow it up with an MC hammer dance. Im going to be sooooo cool!

[Dean]

Make sure the first to people to hold the baby is mum and dad.

Everyone. Else Waits.

EVERYONE.

Also, don't be afraid to kick people out of the hospital room if mum or bub need a rest.

[Doctor_Jan-I-Tor]

i should point out im 31, and this was a very conscious decision to have a child, so all the "run away" and "your life is over" comments wash over me.

Your already showing one of the symptoms of a first time parent...you take things far too seriously.